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I did indeed talk to Jim about the fate of our relationship. In fact, I did it the same night as I posted that I needed to talk to him. It was pretty hard to do it, because I knew it would hurt Jim, but I couldn't bear waiting any longer and risking hurting him more.  I was so worried that he would hate me for deceiving him with the separation...but he called me the next day to tell me he wasn't mad at me, nor does he dislike me.  And when I saw him later that day, we were able to talk, jointly deal with our son's difficult behaviour (clearly due to our break-up) and even hug.

We seem to have reached a very comfortable point where we can relate as friends and not have all that other stuff mess things up. We like each other. We love each other. We always will. But we both recognize that this part of our lives is over and we are in the process of redefining what the rest of our lives will be like. I realize that Jim will be uncomfortable when he sees me with someone new. I just hope that we can continue to be as open with our communication then as we are now. I have wondered how I will react when Jim finds someone new - and I know he will, because he's a great guy with a lot to offer. The only word that comes to mind is happy. Above all, I want to see Jim happy. And if when he meets someone he loves, who loves him and loves our kids as much as he does, who treats him right, then I will be so happy for him.

So, for all you single ladies out there...Jim is a fantastic guy, good sense of humour, intelligent, who finally gets how amazing his kids are, has occasional attacks of romance and will do everything in his power to ensure you have a secure life.  If you want to know the more intimate information, please ask me privately and he has given me permission to extoll his *ahem* skills virtues...

That is all.