Melspeth, The Other Blog

I have been so busy having a life that I've forgotten to write about it!

My life is wonderful - a happy, rewarding, fulfilling relationship with my soulmate, two amazing children that delight me on a daily basis and a job that keeps a roof over our heads.

We're getting ready for Christmas, too.  The tree is up and decorated, the mantle looks amazing and half the presents are already wrapped.  I am more organized this year than in years past.  Of course, the piddly little amount of baking has already been devoured, so I am hoping to get some new stuff done in the next few days.  There are mincemeat tarts cooling as I type this and I've put in an order for ingredients to make butter tarts, nanaimo bars, banana bread and date squares.

In the midst of Christmas preparations, Rick and I are also beginning to plan our wedding.  Before you ask, we are NOT engaged.  Yet.  But with a date of July 12, 2008, we have to start getting our ducks in a row.  So, expect to hear a LOT more about that as we go along.

In the meantime, I wish you all a joyous Christmas and a new year filled with happiness.

I have made the conscious choice to not parade my spouse's failings and shortcomings in a public forum.  I feel that they will come to light in their own time and way and that pettiness should not be rewarded with more pettiness.  I am aware that things can be said in anger and bitterness and that we may all come to regret putting those things out in a public venue.  I do not regret anything that I have written here.

I have made the conscious choice to refrain from further discourse on the dissolution of my marital relationship here.  If you really care to know, you will know how to find me and ask me yourself.  And I will do my utmost to provide you with whatever information it is appropriate that you possess.

I have made the conscious choice to not point accusing fingers at what caused this or that or the other.  I am very much a fatalist - things happen when they do for a reason...and if I am here in this moment, surrounded by these people, with the possibilities that I have before me, I am meant to be here and I am worthy of what is to come.

I have made the conscious choice to redefine who I consider family.  I am discovering that family is not only delineated by bloodlines or marriage - it is also by love, caring, mutual respect and getting through the difficulties life throws at you together.  That said, my current "family" may not change at all...I am merely taking a good long look at each person on their own merits and re-evaluating where they stand in my life, if at all.  It is a sad task, but a necessary one on this journey.

I have made the conscious choice to not allow another person to make me feel shame or fear or pain unless I deem it necessary.

I have made the conscious choice to fill my heart with love for those who are worthy of it and pity for those who are not.  There is no room in my heart for anger, hatred or spite.  Life is too short to waste even one moment trying to make others feel less than they are - all that succeeds in doing is filling your heart and mind with a poison that will linger to the end of your days.

I wish you all a heart full of peace and an end to bitterness.

A lot has happened since my last post.

My father has had triple bypass surgery and is healing. My son turned 4 and has grown out of all of his garb pants. My daughter has learned to walk and is using sign language and talking up a storm. My husband and I celebrated our 7th anniversary. I am working with a friend on a handmade gift to present to our new prince and princess (whoever they may be) when they are invested next month. I got a sweet screen room for camping today. My pansies are blooming.

Life is good.